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You don't have to do everything

Comparison is the thief of joy, it’s said. It’s true! Difficult to argue with that principle.

Nevertheless it’s not easy to deal with. You can try to “work on yourself”, but then you’re perpetuating the problem. In the struggle to prove that you can do things just like others can, you stop enjoying the activity and use it solely as a means to an end.

You can’t always work on your hobbies and be the best. That’s not the point of them. You’re probably comparing somebody’s sole focus with what is something you only think about when you’re bored1.

Allow yourself lapses, maybe indulge in the doomscroll and bedrotting for a little while. Who knows, perhaps your brain will factory reset you and you’ll get out of bed feeling refreshed and with a kick-ass attitude. But more likely, you’ll find a middle ground between an urge to be “productive” because that’s what you see around you, and resting your brain from the urge to compete with all your fellow humans.

That panic you feel, that you only have so many years left to be significant and that there so many possible experiences you’ll never have because you don’t have the energy or the money or you made the wrong choice or didn’t try hard enough and you still think about it every now and then and you get into a funk thinking about it so you switch some Chet Baker on to hear the guy’s voice and enhance the feelings2? That panic? Ha! You’re young, kiddo, get on with life and stop worrying. You’re in control.


  1. Okay, fine, maybe I’m projecting my own problems on you, dear reader. Sorry! ↩︎

  2. Hey, I didn’t say I wouldn’t do it again. ↩︎